To tell or not to Tell?
For someone that I have realized is very much afraid of attachment, I sure do read A LOT of romance novels. It could be one of my feeble attempts to veer myself out of being a scaredy-cat. Either way, these romance novels are usually modern ones, that I can actually see happening and are generally very well written. So every word is more or less filled with excitement and anticipation of what is going to happen next.
The book I’m reading currently has a couple that happens to be in a classic fake-dating arrangement, which obviously is going to turn into a real thing later on. I already know what happens in the end, but the read is still interesting. While reading this book, I noticed something very interesting about couples or even just individuals in general, that fall in love. Have you noticed, how when you’re really really attracted to someone, either because of how they look, or their personality or because of all the things they tell you when you talk, the last thing you can convince yourself to do, is to let them know that you’re attracted to them? You are likely to already know this person pretty well. It’s likely you’ve talked a lot, spent a lot of time together, and got to know each other. You may know each other’s most and least favorite things. You already know that hearing someone tell them that they’re attracted to them is not on their list of the most terrible things that could ever happen to them. But, regardless, your mind is likely going to convince you that telling them how you feel is a terrible idea. Even if they’ve given you quite a number of hints may be, about the fact that they do think highly of you, and they even might be attracted to you, all of these are completely dismissed inside your head. You’re fully convinced that letting them know that you like them will probably likely end in disaster.
I’ve known and heard of couples (I gossip ALOT) who’ve been friends for quite a long time before they can pick up the courage to let each other know their real feelings and move the relationship forward. I personally for one have actually NEVER been the first to tell anyone about how I feel. And I’m not even sure I ever will do that ( causing very high disapproval of my best friends whenever I have a crush).
What’s more interesting in this regard is, most of the time there’s a likelihood of both the parties of interest going through this torture, until one person somehow picks up the courage to confess or a mutual friend decides to just run their mouth and save them the trouble.
Either way, this does not mean that it’s always the best thing to just go ahead and blurt out your feelings. There is always the possibility that you’re blinded by your attraction and the person you like is actually a pretty terrible human being. In that case, maybe not saying anything is actually your savior. So, in reality, there’s actually no telling what’s the best thing to do. Maybe we should just let destiny run its course? Anyways, here’s to hoping we only fall in love with the right people, platonically or otherwise ❤
